Lovers, not fighters.
Monthly socials, workshops and our Panacea parties. Come as you are, connect at your own pace, and make memories with people who get it.
What's on
Panacea party
Our Valentine's party, with a fallen-angel theme: wings, halos (broken or otherwise), black and white. A friendly play party in our favourite two-level gothic dungeon, built for the poly and non-monogamous community: play is the focus, scenes are respected, and groups and polycules are always welcome.
Bring friends: group tickets are cheaper, and with our bundle you buy 2 and bring 2 free.
Get tickets
Monthly social · free
A relaxed evening in a pub or bar: no dress code, nothing expected. The easiest way to meet us and the community, especially if you're new or curious.
Get the dates
Workshops
Small, friendly sessions on consent, communication and connection, some with specialist guests. Popular before, and coming back.
Hear firstWho we are
We bring together people who live and love a little differently, so they can meet, support each other and express themselves freely in a safe, healthy space.
Non-monogamy is a spectrum. Some of us are all about connection and relationships (that's where Poly Play Parties began). Others are drawn more to physical exploration with one or a few partners. Most are somewhere in between. Monogamous and curious people are welcome too, and we keep ethically non-monogamous people at the heart of what we do.
Come as you are. Take part as much or as little as you like.
Clear consent, house rules, and hosts you can talk to.
We don't fight prejudice. We show what a kind, healthy community looks like.
Being human is about the moments we share. We make room for them.
Our story
It started with socials. At weekend get-togethers someone would say "there's a party tonight, come with us?", and before long a whole gang of us went along together. It became a tradition, and some of the best nights we've had.
But we kept hitting the same wall. As a triad, three equal partners, we were turned away from a "couples only" event. One of us was left outside, and the evening was ruined for all three. Friends had similar stories: party rules written around a pair, and people who simply didn't get it.
So we made our own. Panacea is a play party built for the way our community actually loves: groups and polycules welcome, play taken seriously and scenes respected, and nobody left at the door.
Our own rules
We don't think monogamy is wrong. It's a choice, and so is ours. We choose to shape our relationships around the people in them, ourselves included, rather than rules handed down by history, tradition or religions we don't belong to.
Those old rules weren't always about love. For a long time they were about property and inheritance, and they fell hardest on women. A double standard still lingers: a man with several partners gets admired, a woman gets judged.
We'd rather make our own rules, openly and with everyone's consent, that make sense for us and our loved ones. If that resonates, you'll fit right in.
Consent & safety
Every interaction needs a clear yes. "No" and "maybe later" are always fine.
Our team is around all event. Talk to us about anything, any time.
No photos at events. What you see and who you meet stays there. check: is this your rule?
18+, with ID at the door for parties. check
Join us
Our FetLife group is where we post socials, parties and members' discounts. group link
Email list: one email a month with what's on. sign-up form, once email is live
Say hello: hello@panaceaparties.co.uk